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Kellie's Blog: I've Reached My Limit

One of the best lessons I've ever learned from somebody else's therapy session (he was very chatty about his personal business) was to give yourself a time limit on your anger or grief. In this particular case, one spouse had cheated on the other and was flat-out caught in the act. (No lying your way out of that one…) But even though they decided to keep the marriage together, the scorned spouse decided to make the other one pay for it. Every. Single. Day. So off to counseling they finally went. Their very wise therapist said — paraphrasing here because I wasn't in the room — "Look. You made the decision to stay in this marriage, but if you don't stop punishing your spouse, it's not going to work." He said what you have to do is give yourself a time limit. How long do you need to be angry? To feel sorry for yourself? To wallow in grief? Is it a month? Two months? Six? Whatever that time is, set your time limit. Then go on and flop around in all your dark feelings! Enjoy every miserable minute of it! But when the time limit is up, you're done!

kellie-blog-pic-073015I can't tell you how many times I have used that advice. And I've found that the older I get, the time I allow myself to wallow in misery have gotten briefer in length. Life is too short! I literally don't have time for that! In fact, after my most recent breakup, I allowed myself to enjoy the heartbreak. Sure, I played a little too much Candy Crush Soda. I drank a cocktail at home. Alone. And it was a double. And I may have skipped one shampoo too many. But! I experienced my sadness — every dreary, delicious bite of it! And after celebrating my one week dumpiversary, I'm done! Like I said, my time limits have gotten waaaaay shorter.

By the way, back to my friend who offered me his therapist's advice on setting time limits….The scorned spouse who decided to stay but made the other pay for it every day? So after continuing to punish her husband for the next couple of years, he finally said, "Enough." Their marriage is now over, which is exactly what she said she didn't want. So what the hell is this chick's time limit? Infinity??

- Kellie Rasberry

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J-Si's Naked Photobomb

Kinsey is going on a bachelorette trip and she shared a picture of her gown with the other bridesmaids… But she didn't notice J-Si in the background. Check it out below!

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What Would You Do on a Plane?

Tituss Burgess and Jane Krakowski, stars of The Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, were sitting on a plane - at least it looks like they're on a plane - with the show's creator, Tina Fey.

Beyonce's "Flawless" came up on someone's playlist, so obviously, the three of them had to lip-sync to it.

I mean, wouldn't you?


I love @beyonce #nofilter #jetlife #unbreakle #netflix #janegetontwitter #tinaiknowyouwon't #peenonoir

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Dang Me, Dang Me, Oughta Take a Rope & Hang Me...

Talk about dedication.

A group of anti-drilling activists are putting themselves on the line - quite literally - to block an ice-breaking ship for Shell Oil from leaving Portland, Oregon.

The ice-breaker is needed to help Shell get where it needs to be to drill in the Arctic, but the folks at Greenpeace have different plans.

Thirteen of them rappeled off a bridge under which the ice-breaker must pass, and are hanging there, forming a literal human wall.

Reportedly, they plan to stay as long as it takes, and they've got what they need to survive for a bit - including adult diapers.

This could get very interesting...

Good Morning Portland with @Greenpeace @RisingTideNA #Fennica icebreaker departure delayed. Can you guess why?

Posted by 350 Seattle on Wednesday, July 29, 2015
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Don't Wonder Why, Because Then You'll Need to Know How

Post this one under the WHAT THE FUDGE files.

Police in Stratford, Connecticut arrested an 81-year-old man on Monday.

According to the Associated Press, he was charged with public indecency, because he was allegedly "performing a sex act with some shrubbery."

As the story goes, the man was in his yard with the shrub. A neighbor videotaped the performance, called the man out, the man covered himself up with the top of a barbecue grill and went into his own house.

Here's hoping the barbecue grill wasn't in use at the time, otherwise we've got an entirely different weinie roast going on.

He was released on a $10,000 bond and has to return to court on August 5.

And according to the story, he didn't immediately return a call to the Associated Press.

Gee, I wonder why...
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You WILL Have Fun at the Beach

It's summertime, so that means beach time.

For those without kids, no big deal.

For those with kids, you need a degree in project management to pull that off, and even that won't help.

Freelance writer Robyn Welling, a New York Times bestselling humorist, put together a fun little video that will hit home with any parent who's ever had to pack up the kids for a day at the beach.


Can you relate? Then follow Robyn on Twitter.
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Mystery Solved?

"A huge break in the biggest aviation mystery in decades," says NBC News reporter Tom Costello.

Debris likely from an airplane has surfaced on Reunion Island, about 600 miles away from Madagascar in the Indian Ocean.

Investigators from Boeing believe it's a fragment from a Boeing 777, and the only Boeing 777 currently missing in the world is Malaysian Airlines Flight 370, which was lost over a year ago, presumably in the Indian Ocean.

Mystery solved? Not yet, say the experts, as there's still a lot of work to do. But it's the first solid clue they've had to work with since the plane disappeared with 239 people aboard.

Stay tuned...

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Teaching Center, with Key & Peele

Keegan-Michael Key & Jordan Peele are behind the best sketch-comedy show on TV right now.

Their latest sketch applies the metrics and showmanship of ESPN's Sports Center to the world of teaching.

What if teachers got as much interest and as much pay as professional athletes.

What a world that might be, huh?

And thanks to Key & Peele, we know how it would be covered.

A+, boys!

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Lion on the Loose

Folks in Milwaukee report seeing a big cat prowling the neighborhood.

One woman managed to get a video of it.

They're calling it the Milwaukee Lion - clever, don't you think?

There are all sorts of theories on it. The two biggest:
(1) Could be a young African lion purchased as a pet and let loose.
(2) Could be a cougar, as cougars are becoming more comfortable in the Midwest.

Folks at the Milwaukee County Zoo checked - all their lions are accounted for.


Here's some fun news. The Milwaukee Lion has a Twitter account. And he's having some fun.
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Duck... No, Really, Duck

One of the coolest things about America's Got Talent is when they stumble upon someone who's got a fresh take on an old talent.

For instance, ventriloquism. Guy talks for himself, and his puppet.

Great. You don't often get the sense that the puppet's real.

But you do with this guy - his name is Paul Zerden, and his puppet is a baby.

A cantankerous little fellow who wants a bedtime story, but doesn't like scary things, so Little Red Riding Hood's wolf has to be replaced by a yellow fluffy duck.

Very clever routine, and very nicely rewarded at the end too. Check it out.

Congratulations Paul Zerdin (and child) on getting Marlon Wayans' #GoldenBuzzer!

Posted by America's Got Talent on Tuesday, July 28, 2015
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